Me too and my kids who are highly successful. We were a one income family on a teacher salary with a bunch of kids.
That said, the playing field is not equal. 85% of stocks are owned by the 1%. They trade up to the minute. Most of us get 1 day. That's huge. The financial crisis was a lot about the 1% taking.
My wife works in a minority dominated school. The parents can't get off to take care of sick kids. They work multiple jobs often without day care. They can't get to the hospital. Many of the kids are traumatized. My kids get to go to the best school in this area of my state.
I think what you are missing is the impact of trauma, fetal alcohol, lack of medical care, lack of parents having the ability or the time to help with school. It is a real problem with no easy answers. It's easy to sit in middle class and look down. The middle class gets soaked by the upper class.
The so called nanny state isn't the answer. Neither is letting the masses figure it out. Education is a key component.
Even in Iowa one can see it easily. Kids from Council Bluffs have opportunity. It's not the same as growing up in Ankeny. Graduating from Nebraska Omaha ins't the same as Iowa and so on.
The truth is in between somewhere.
Dude, my wife works with the extreme behavior kids in a large school district. We are well aware of the challenges out there and understand many of the reasons.