Let's work your analogy a bit more.
Say you are a spouse. You work your butt off trying to make your spouse happy. She tells you what she wants and needs, you get her everything. She still keeps looking around at other dudes and comparing you to them and sometimes not favorably. You ask her to tell you if she is going to leave so you can start preparing. She says, "No honey, I just need to keep looking around just in case something goes wrong, but we are good." This is significant to you because you have turned down other women and financial opportunities for her.
Then, without telling you what is up, she holds a news conference announcing her new boyfriend and making you look like a complete idiot. Then two days later, they throw a huge party with her rubbing up against him like a poll dancer.
You do your best to move on as people are climbing all over themselves to fawn over the new couple as you think, "you know, if you could have just been more honest, I could have protected myself financially and emotionally, but your selfish self-centered behavior really negatively impacted me and my financial interests.
Also, if you didn't rub it in my face, I wouldn't look like an ***.
Then, less than a year later, the couple falls flat on their face and just about everyone is criticising your ex.
Seriously, you don't think that is cause for at least a little glee? Really?
