Remind me to have my kids not trick or treat at your house... You sound like someone that hates sick kids in hospitals that only would like for their favorite players to wave up at them for a few seconds. If guilt tripping and shaming is what it takes to get people to do the right thing then the result is what it should be. That says more about those without the common sense/dignity to figure it out on their own. Not the other way around. I bet you don't hold doors for ladies either. It's too bad that the most basic of common sense isn't in most folks nowadays. Is it a crime nowadays to be a complete douche? No they'll let ya walk the streets a free man for it. But I have no problem pointing out to others if you are one.This is exactly why I hated this tradition from the very begining. Its painted as this voluntary thing that should be a nice thing, but is quickly turned into this guilt-fest for those that are not interested in participating in this new "tradition".
For those of you that are demanding that anyone "has" to participate, you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Do if you want yourself, but you need to stop short of forcing anybody to do it.