New Marriage/baby Hawkeye advice

DP5555

DP5555

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Okay so let me start out by warning you. This is a pretty stupid argument that my wife and I get into, but I need some advice from fellow Hawk fans. I need other people's perspective on my situation.

First, my wife and I have been married for about 2 years and we have a 10 month old son. My wife lived in Nebraska for about 10 years total for both college (Concordia) and her first few jobs out of college. She converted to a Nebraska fan while being there because all of her friends were Husker fans.

Now when we started dating and throughout our relationship it has been very clear to her that I am diehard Hawkeye fan. I watch and record every football and basketball game. I follow the Hawks religiously. To the point it probably isn't healthy, but it's my thing. Most guys out there know that once you become married and have kids you need a thing. You need hobbies to stay sane. The Hawks are my biggest hobby. Always have been. Because of that I've always dreamed of being able to share the Hawks with my son. I want us to have a common love for the Hawks. I want to take him to games and just share in that experience with him.

On the flip side, my wife could really give two shits about Nebraska. She watches maybe 2-3 Nebraska related events a year (if she's at a friends party or at the Iowa vs Nebraska game with me like she will be on Friday). She doesn't know any players names. She just doesn't really care. I honestly think she says she's a Husker fan just to get under my skin. Which is fine. I don't really care about that.

Now here's where I need advice. My wife keeps putting our son in Husker clothes and it's seriously making me upset. The realistic part of my brain is telling me it's crazy to get upset, but it really does bother me. It's like this is my thing. This is the one thing I want to share with our son. Why can't I just have this? I don't know if she's intentionally doing it just to piss me off or what. She thinks it's harmless and that I'm being ridiculous, but my fear is that if I don't make it clear now that he doesn't wear any other teams clothes other than the Hawks then they will continue to buy him Husker gear and she will continue to put it on him. Which down the road could end up influencing whom he cheers for. I feel like she should respect the fact that this is my thing. Now if she were a bigger Husker fan then I think she would have an argument and I would respect that, but she's not. She doesn't follow them at all.

Sorry for the long rant. Am I crazy or would this bother you guys too? Any advice? Do I just drop it or do I try and put my foot down? It seems very silly I know, but I don't know how to proceed.
 
***Absolutely no fusker red. Compromise and go with Concordia Bulldog blue and gray (my alma mater). Your son will outgrow the fusker stuff soon, or will spit stuff on it that will stain it (which you can make sure of) and it won't be worn again. Also, you could take the stuff and hide it.




























***The above advice should only be followed if you're not man enough to put her in her place.
 
DP5555 said:
Okay so let me start out by warning you. This is a pretty stupid argument that my wife and I get into, but I need some advice from fellow Hawk fans. I need other people's perspective on my situation.

First, my wife and I have been married for about 2 years and we have a 10 month old son. My wife lived in Nebraska for about 10 years total for both college (Concordia) and her first few jobs out of college. She converted to a Nebraska fan while being there because all of her friends were Husker fans.

Now when we started dating and throughout our relationship it has been very clear to her that I am diehard Hawkeye fan. I watch and record every football and basketball game. I follow the Hawks religiously. To the point it probably isn't healthy, but it's my thing. Most guys out there know that once you become married and have kids you need a thing. You need hobbies to stay sane. The Hawks are my biggest hobby. Always have been. Because of that I've always dreamed of being able to share the Hawks with my son. I want us to have a common love for the Hawks. I want to take him to games and just share in that experience with him.

On the flip side, my wife could really give two shits about Nebraska. She watches maybe 2-3 Nebraska related events a year (if she's at a friends party or at the Iowa vs Nebraska game with me like she will be on Friday). She doesn't know any players names. She just doesn't really care. I honestly think she says she's a Husker fan just to get under my skin. Which is fine. I don't really care about that.

Now here's where I need advice. My wife keeps putting our son in Husker clothes and it's seriously making me upset. The realistic part of my brain is telling me it's crazy to get upset, but it really does bother me. It's like this is my thing. This is the one thing I want to share with our son. Why can't I just have this? I don't know if she's intentionally doing it just to piss me off or what. She thinks it's harmless and that I'm being ridiculous, but my fear is that if I don't make it clear now that he doesn't wear any other teams clothes other than the Hawks then they will continue to buy him Husker gear and she will continue to put it on him. Which down the road could end up influencing whom he cheers for. I feel like she should respect the fact that this is my thing. Now if she were a bigger Husker fan then I think she would have an argument and I would respect that, but she's not. She doesn't follow them at all.

Sorry for the long rant. Am I crazy or would this bother you guys too? Any advice? Do I just drop it or do I try and put my foot down? It seems very silly I know, but I don't know how to proceed.
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Two Words: Hawkeye colors only
 
Are the Neb. Outfits a gift or is she buying them,if she is then ask her to stop.Use the clothing for rags in the garage regardless who's buying them.Your not being ridiculous and if she loves you she will understand.As they say A Hawkeye At Birth,nothing wrong with that.
 
1) get some Hawk gear that you can put on him after she leaves the room.

2) take his diaper off when she puts him in the red. Then when he drops a deuce you can tell her/show her that must be what your son really thinks of the huskers (after changing & cleaning him of course)

3) of course if you're really serious about this then you have to go nuclear option and threaten to with hold sex until she agrees on black/gold only.

(Yes, I know you said you're married so that may be more of a firecracker than a nuke -- but at least she'll know you're serious)
 
Dude...6 kids here and happily married. Let mom take the lead on kids. If she lets you be that childish about watching so much its unhealthy, make the compromise.

He some Hawk stuff and put it on when you can. Whether he becomes a Hawk fan depends on post K F.

I'm a huge Hawk fans. Unlike Josh Brown, there is greater satisfaction in certain aspects of marriage. For most women, give them support on being a mom according to what they want and it will pay huge dividends in your love life. Guarantee it.

She may eventually see the light. In the mean time, you'll be smiling...unless you are Josh Brown. (referring to yesterdays game thread Josh...)
 
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I am the last person on planet Earth that should be giving advice on marriage and relationships. It has been my experience in order to get something you have to give up something. What are you willing to give up? Whatever you are willing to give up is it worth it when there is a good chance that he will gradually gravitate toward being an Iowa fan in a few years anyway?
 
DP5555 said:
Okay so let me start out by warning you. This is a pretty stupid argument that my wife and I get into, but I need some advice from fellow Hawk fans. I need other people's perspective on my situation.

First, my wife and I have been married for about 2 years and we have a 10 month old son. My wife lived in Nebraska for about 10 years total for both college (Concordia) and her first few jobs out of college. She converted to a Nebraska fan while being there because all of her friends were Husker fans.

Now when we started dating and throughout our relationship it has been very clear to her that I am diehard Hawkeye fan. I watch and record every football and basketball game. I follow the Hawks religiously. To the point it probably isn't healthy, but it's my thing. Most guys out there know that once you become married and have kids you need a thing. You need hobbies to stay sane. The Hawks are my biggest hobby. Always have been. Because of that I've always dreamed of being able to share the Hawks with my son. I want us to have a common love for the Hawks. I want to take him to games and just share in that experience with him.

On the flip side, my wife could really give two shits about Nebraska. She watches maybe 2-3 Nebraska related events a year (if she's at a friends party or at the Iowa vs Nebraska game with me like she will be on Friday). She doesn't know any players names. She just doesn't really care. I honestly think she says she's a Husker fan just to get under my skin. Which is fine. I don't really care about that.

Now here's where I need advice. My wife keeps putting our son in Husker clothes and it's seriously making me upset. The realistic part of my brain is telling me it's crazy to get upset, but it really does bother me. It's like this is my thing. This is the one thing I want to share with our son. Why can't I just have this? I don't know if she's intentionally doing it just to piss me off or what. She thinks it's harmless and that I'm being ridiculous, but my fear is that if I don't make it clear now that he doesn't wear any other teams clothes other than the Hawks then they will continue to buy him Husker gear and she will continue to put it on him. Which down the road could end up influencing whom he cheers for. I feel like she should respect the fact that this is my thing. Now if she were a bigger Husker fan then I think she would have an argument and I would respect that, but she's not. She doesn't follow them at all.

Sorry for the long rant. Am I crazy or would this bother you guys too? Any advice? Do I just drop it or do I try and put my foot down? It seems very silly I know, but I don't know how to proceed.
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Married 11 years, boy/girl twins 3 years old. Live in Omaha, wife grew up here, her family and friends all big nebby fans. My wife roots for nebby, but is mostly indifferent.

My wife and children wear Hawkeye gear about 90% of the time, my wife wears Hawkeye gear about 75% of the time. Cause I'm reasonable.

I refuse to wear red, ever. I do not own an article of red clothing.

The kids will wear Hawkeye gear next week. Period.

I will likely lose control after a few more years and the kids are in school. which is why the Hawks need to be a least decent and beat nebby as much as possible.

F B R.

Go Hawks.
 
Husker stuff only at night.....like when they're sleeping....Hawkeye gear during the day, and none of this cross blended Husker/Hawkeye crap that I sometimes see... My wife was born in N. Platte but has no loyalty to the little red machine .....Hawkeyes til we die (all of her family love Nebraska and live there, so we need to kick their asses Friday)
 
I just love manufactured fans (same level as bandwagon fan). That would bug me as well, to be honest. Sounds like she does it to get under your skin. She may be trying to fit in with her friends, but a loving spouse should really put her partners feelings into play, especially when the child is so young they really don't have an idea or ability to make their own choice.

Here's what I would do to make a point and embarrass her to a point. Tell her you child can wear Nebby gear is she can name 10 players from Nebbys football team and 5 from the basketball team. A true fan would be able to do that. If she can't, deal is off and she's just being disrespectful.

I have a serious question, outside of your child, is she a more selfish or giving person?
 
Sometimes after you make your bed, you have to lay in it. What the hell were you thinking marrying a husker fan to begin with? My best friend married am ISU fan so he is in your boat. Stuck tailgating at ISU games (during Iowa games) with a wife that can't even name player's names. If it makes you feel better, he has an 8 year old boy who loves the hawks and hates the clowns even tho his dad doesn't push the hate.
 
I'm not ignoring you guys. I picked up a shift this wknd. Will respond when I'm off. Appreciate the input. I plan on showing her the responses so she can see other people's perspective as well. I think it helps to get people's opinions from outside the situation.
 
Couple of things...

She doesn't ever buy him Husker clothes, but her Nebraska friends love to. They instigate it and she complies by having him wear their gifts even though I make it very clear to them not to waste their money because I will just throw the clothing away.

She's a great person. She's not selfish. This is just one of those things we can't get on the same page on. She can't relate to my Hawkeye fandom. I try to explain to her how important this is to me and she either doesn't care or just wants to irritate me. I really don't know what her angle is.
 
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DP5555 said:
Couple of things...

She doesn't ever buy him Husker clothes, but her Nebraska friends love to. They instigate it and she complies by having him wear their gifts even though I make it very clear to them not to waste their money because it will just throw the clothing away.

She's a great person. She's not selfish. This is just one of those things we can't get on the same page on. She can't relate to my Hawkeye fandom. I try to explain to her how important this is to me and she either doesn't care or just wants to irritate me. I really don't know what her angle is.
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do you have a fireplace? If so, use it!
 
Don't sweat it. You'll teach him to be a hawkeye fan as you have him on your knee during the games. Your son will see you cheer for Iowa. He'll want to be just like daddy. mom can't do a thing about it.
 
Married 10 years. Wife's family are clones from by Ames. I converted the wife early...think before marriage. The in laws are some of the best people I know, and they watch our 3 year old on home games when we are in IC without complaint. That said, he had been coming home saying "go cyclones." Obviously this comes from her family trying to get cute. I never put my foot down, and the wife can do whatever she wants, but I told her to make that shit stop. So far so good. Either they got the message, or my doubling down on indoctrination efforts has paid off. You aren't crazy, and you should set the record strait. If I were you, I'd pile up all the Husker gear and ship it to the Lincoln, NE Salvation Army...seriously...do it.
 
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