Disapointment is a Curse and a Gift at the same time.

MelroseHawkins

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I try to be a glass half full kind of guy. It's just easier going thru life that way. We've all had our moments at a young age when we fell in love with our Hawks. Mine was the 1985 team with Chuck Long, Ronnie Harmon, Mike Haight, etc. I remember the disappointment when that team lost the 1986 Rose Bowl. I remember that sick feeling. But, it was at that moment I realized the deep feeling I had for the Hawkeyes which hasn't gone away.

I remember in the 1990's when Nebraska was still good watching Nebraska play a high profile team at Nebraska on ABC. It was at the end of the game and was known that Nebraska was going to come up short and lose that game. I vividly remember a TV shot showing a young Nebraska boy in the stands at mid field with tears just streaming down his face secondary to being so upset for his beloved Huskers. I will always remember seeing that passion of a young fan.

I'm kind of getting choked up writing this now because I experienced that same situation Saturday evening in my own home. I have two 8 year old boys who luv their Hawkeyes. I always knew they liked them but the Hawks haven't had the success to this level the past few years so they really have never gotten to experience a dominant Hawkeye season as this year. This has been fun for them. When Michigan State's Scott crossed the goal line and it was apparent that Iowa wasn't going to come back, my one boy just broke down into tears and could not be consoled. It was gut wrenching to watch and I have a pit in my stomach right now writing this. He was not able to settle down for 20-30 minutes.

As hard as it is, this season is a gift. I'm fortunate that my boys could witness a season such as this, even though losing was a hard experience. It could be worse, we could not have had a reason to cry on Saturday night. I will take it as a gift and I am sure my son's will learn that as well.
 
Melrose, that's a great story, it's not just the tears, it's the disappointment we all feel for Iowa fans, players, coaches.....These are great life lessons....you can't win'em all, some have to win, some have to lose....life is full of ups and downs.......You feel bad for Iowa, and your son's tears made it worth being a fan of Iowa and an overall fan of football...It's nothing a hug can't fix. I remember going through that in 1984 w/my Cubs...My wife and I were just married that August, actually went to Wrigley for our Honeymoon, only to become physically sick to my stomach, vomiting when the San Diego Padres took'em out......

Your sons will remember what they watched and know the next time that that happens, they will accept it a little easier, still maddening, but that's the way life is sometimes....
 
A lot of people are calling this a wasted opportunity, and I get the argument, but for us to not feel like it was a wasted opportunity we would have had to close out that game AND win two more games. If we would have won Saturday and lost the next game, it would have been a wasted opportunity to make the Championship Game. If we would have lost in the Championship Game it would have been a wasted opportunity to win a National Championship. The odds of winning the last 3 games was very slim so maybe it's better to see this season as finally taking advantage of an opportunity.
 
I guess my point is that at least we have a reason to shed some tears after a tough loss. At this point last year apathy had set in with many fans, boy how that has changed. A great season can be a gift but can be disappointing as well. This is when the pain is good, if people will look at it that way. This is a good thing.
 
I'd rather lose a semi-final game than win a bowl game. Any bowl game. Period.

Not me. The further we made it, the harder the loss would be to take. Winning the Rose would make for a way better off season. We pretty much lost in the quarter finals. Losing in the quarter finals and getting a Rose Bowl win is better than losing in semi finals and going home. That said, I would rather take my chances in the semi finals than have a guaranteed Rose Bowl win.
 
Not me. The further we made it, the harder the loss would be to take. Winning the Rose would make for a way better off season. We pretty much lost in the quarter finals. Losing in the quarter finals and getting a Rose Bowl win is better than losing in semi finals and going home. That said, I would rather take my chances in the semi finals than have a guaranteed Rose Bowl win.

I'd rather have had the big 10 championship than the Rose Bowl championship. Finishing in the top 5 is nothing to complain about though, which is what Iowa will have on the line in the Rose Bowl.
 
Not me. The further we made it, the harder the loss would be to take. Winning the Rose would make for a way better off season. We pretty much lost in the quarter finals. Losing in the quarter finals and getting a Rose Bowl win is better than losing in semi finals and going home. That said, I would rather take my chances in the semi finals than have a guaranteed Rose Bowl win.


I don't follow this. So are you telling me you are happy we lost Saturday Night, so all the pressure goes away..
 
Shoot, Melrose, I wanted to cry myself. But, that memory of the end of the game probably forged your boys' loyalty to the Hawkeyes more than the 12 wins. That's the half full element of Saturday night.
 
I don't follow this. So are you telling me you are happy we lost Saturday Night, so all the pressure goes away..

Not at all. He said he would rather lose the semi than win the rose. I said I would rather take my chances in the semi's than have a guaranteed win in the Rose. That means I would trade a Rose Bowl win for a chance to roll the dice in the playoffs.But if I could somehow know that the semi's would be a loss and know the Rose was going to be a win, I would rather take the win. I will say though, I was so wrapped up in not making the playoffs that it didn't even occure to me that we lost a Big 10 Championship too. That might change my opinion.
 
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