I was thinking on how people react when a recruit either decommits and/or decides to go to a another school jooining late in the recruiting process... although it's disappointing, I think people need to really think about their situations and what would they do if the roles were reversed.
Using the job scenario... if a person has a particular career path in mind, what path would you expect them to take? There are many avenues one could take, but mostly they are going to take the path that best fits their plans for themselves and their families - it might be $$, it might be location or even a company in a better position to promote them. I dare say that very few of us would hesitate to jump jobs and even less would condemn someone for pursuing their dreams.
Sure. The company they are working for might be and do, often times, get upset... but it's all about what fits best for the person. How is that any different for a recruit? As I said before, it's disappointing, but if we truly look at ourselves and the decisions we make, we are no different.